A Coaching Thought: What others say about you reveals two things: 1). Massive insecurities of that person… such talk takes the light off him/her and puts it on you as a way of denying his/her faults, vulnerabilities, or culpability in a problem; and 2). such talk always says more about that person than you. Such people are toxic…and the best way to deal with toxic people is on your terms not theirs…it’s called “defecting in place.”